What Women Know . . .if you were to give one piece of advice to another woman what would it be?

The posts are coming in fast now and looking really good - I got some beautiful stories today - two in a coffee shop!
"Always maintain your independence!" was Janet's advice - a very clever artist

We also received this inspirational story from Emily - take a look

Just over a month ago I was getting very down on myself for having been single for so long – at the age of 24 I’ve been single for nearly 4 years and am constantly surrounded by couples, I never seemed to meet anyone and if I did they’d end up being the same loser bloke who only wanted one thing. If someone was to ask me “Why have you been single for so long?” my answer would have been “because guys aren’t
interested in me / I have no luck with men / I’m just not attractive
to the opposite sex”. Recently I spent three weeks in Thailand
travelling with a friend – it was a complete eye opener – an amazing
experience – I gained the confidence to speak to everyone I met, made
lots of friends and learned to not be shy with the opposite sex -
people liked me because I was friendly, open to new experiences and
approachable. One of the guys I made friends with had feelings for me
– although he didn’t tell me directly, but I chose not to act upon it
because I was having such a good time and didn’t want to break the
dynamic of the group – he asked me “So tell me, why have you been
single for so long?” And then it hit me – here I was with a guy I
liked but didn’t want to evolve our friendship any further than it was
because I was enjoying my time with him as it stood, and I answered
“You know what? It’s because I chose to be. I haven’t found anyone
I’ve wanted to share my life pattern with enough to undergo a
relationship, I’m perfectly happy in my own company and until the
right one comes along I’m happy to stay that way for as long as it
takes.”


The thing I hadn’t realised was that you make a lot more decisions
when it comes to relationships than you think you do – it’s just
convention that leads you to believe otherwise. And if you have been
single for a while and think you’re unattractive and not approachable
– think again, it’s quite the opposite – you are in fact a strong,
stable, independent person who is so happy with themselves that they’d
rather be by themselves than settle for something second rate.


Another saying I think is definitely worth mentioning – something my friend always tells me:

We’re here for a good time, not for a long time. - so never waste an
opportunity!!!!

Hope that helps

Emily, 24, just starting her life